Expectations of Members of Holy Protection Orthodox Christian Church
Every member of the parish is expected to live the life in Christ by:
- Entrusting ourselves, one another, and all our life to Jesus Christ. We expect every member to put God first, for He put us first. Since God put us first, we expect every member to reciprocate and reject putting themselves first (autotheism), and putting idols first (idolatry--oh, there are many idols, o so many including political ideologies and personalities on movies, tv, radio). Christianity is where our opinions decrease, and our Creator's all-knowing and all-loving plan for us increases. He knows us better than we know ourselves, and certainly knows what is good for us far more than we know it for ourselves. We have as guides the teachings of the Holy Spirit found in Scripture as well as the rest of the deposit of the Faith given to the Holy Church.
- Recognizing that the Church is God’s plan for humanity, uniting people with Himself in the grace-filled Sacraments of the Church that He might live with them and in them, and they in Him. A person does not "belong" to the Church as some sort of attachment, but rather the faithful ARE the Church, the Body of Christ, being engrafted into Christ Himself in the sacramental life in Christ. God established the Church not just for people of certain backgrounds, but for people of all backgrounds.
- Striving, through study in the faith as individuals, as families, and together, to understand and live out the expectations that Christ has for you as His disciple and as one of His people as revealed in Scripture (the Bible).
- Understanding that Church membership is about getting right with God and living right with God. Christians look at their actions and judge them based on God's standards, and apologize to others when we offend them, and seek to make things right as far as possible from our point of view. When making moral decisions we must not act based on emotion, but rather based on right and wrong. As fallen creatures, often we can deceive ourselves, so we look to do what is right in God's eyes as revealed in the Gospel of Christ, not each person "doing what is right in their own eyes." As Scripture says: "You shall not do what we are doing here today, each human doing what is right in his own eyes" (Deut. 12.8)
- Entrusting our lives to God daily, which also means praying daily—communicating with your Creator throughout the day. This may be through silent or vocal prayers, short or long, at home, work, recreation, and travel in between. One should also pray before meals, even if it is a short silent prayer in the mind. One must also teach their children to pray regularly, to read Scripture (read it with them when they are little), to learn and practice the Faith that Christ has given for the salvation of the world.
- Dedicating each Lord’s Day (Sunday) to the One whose day it is, starting the week out making God a priority,* and teaching your children to do the same. This involves attending Liturgy regularly, every Sunday possible. The ordinance to honor the Lord on the Lord’s day is a commandment. If there are legitimate reasons why we cannot be in Church either here or at another parish on a Sunday (work obligations, hospitalization, illness, being out of town or at a great distance of a church on a given Sunday, etc.), then we should be finding other ways to accomplish this commandment, either by going to a midweek service, or something of the like. Discuss with priest when in doubt.
- Living a life of charitable action by aiding people whom we encounter throughout the day in small or large ways, by a kind word or gesture, by holding doors, by looking for ways to make a small difference in someone’s day, a word of encouragement, helping someone carry something to their car, etc.
- Responsibility to one another. Christ said "love one another as I have loved you." The members of the parish are expected to care for one another, to visit one another (either in person or by note, electronic or otherwise, or phone, etc.) in illness or affliction (loss of loved one, trauma, etc.). Also, there is the responsibility to tell the priest and our fellow Church members when things happen that may cause our absence. It is not their job to chase after us to find out why we are absent, but our responsibility to contact them. When Lazarus fell ill, the Bible says that Mary and Martha took responsibility to contact Christ on behalf of their brother: “So the sisters sent word to Him, saying, 'Lord, behold, he whom You love is sick.'” (John 11.3-4). Likewise "when John, while imprisoned, heard of the works of Christ, he sent word by his disciples" (Matthew 11.2). Please don't keep the priest or fellow members guessing as to what happen, or wait for them to call to ask what happened. "Send word" as is the Biblical responsibility of all of us. Think about if someone did this to you--just did not show up and did not tell you why! Think about it if the priest did not show up and didn't tell anyone, but just expected them to call him! It is just as outrageous when anyone else does it.
- Periodic confession, at times of major sin, of prolonged or addictive sin, and every year during the fasts (four periods of repentance: Great Lent, after Pentecost, August Dormition Fast, and sometime during the 40 days before Nativity). An Orthodox Christian should confess not less than once a year, and especially everyone should take confession during Great Lent in order to be properly prepared for Holy Week.
- Preparing for Communion and partaking of it regularly. If you are not able to do so for various reasons, please talk to the priest about it.
- Regularly contributing to the parish financially (tithing or biblical stewardship with a proportion of tithing). This includes the priest who must do a full tithe as an example to the rest of the parish. As Scripture states, giving should not be done "grudgingly", but cheerfully. Christ tells us that where we put our money (most translations say "treasure"), there will our hearts be also.
- Continuously learning about the faith, and not making excuses not to. One can simply do this by paying attention to the Liturgy, paying attention to the sermon, attending Bible study, attending class in the hall, reading Scripture, reading books on the Faith, listening to online podcasts or videos on the faith, looking at the information on Christian Education websites, etc.
- Periodic fasting according to one of the levels or schedules of fasting. This will vary based on the health, work conditions, and spiritual level of the soul, but some effort must be made.
We must understand that anything we do for Church is not doing God a favor (God needs nothing--He has set this up for our benefit as a gift for us to properly take care of), nor is it doing the parish or the priest a favor (favors expect something in return, gifts are a thanks to God for what he has already done, and expects no "thanks" in return). Rather, when we give to the Church it is taking care of our own house, the stewardship to which we are all called. As such, we are doing your duty for God according to our calling, but not doing a favor for anyone (favor expects something in return, duty finds the very action to be the reward). If you view it otherwise, it is best that you don’t do it at all. Again, Church membership is about one thing and one thing only, and that is God. If we do what we should but expect something in return, we are not credited by God as have done anything except selfishness without reward (Luke 6.34). Rather, according to Christ, we are to give freely and with the attitude that we are only doing our duty, and that all that we do cannot possibly be a return for what God has given us, and therefore are to be cheerful and thankful in what we do and give (Luke 17.10).
Holy Protection Church rejects any notion of consumerism within the Church. The Church is not about me and what I want. The Church is not about you and what you want. The Church is about God and what HE wants, because He alone knows what is best for us and alone has unselfish motives for what is beneficial to us in big (eternal) picture. We reject "fundraising" as a improper source of Church revenue, and believe that the Church can only live out its existence by proper God-centered investment as a member of the Body of Christ, with stewardship and the committment to God's standards of giving from every member. Any fundraising that is done should only be done so that the church has money to give away charitably, or to spend on outreach, not for internal use. Tithing is for internal expenditure. We also hold that it is unfair to rob God when we are not here, and must not punish the church by failing to give simply because we are absent. For example, if the priest goes on vacation for a few weeks, he is expected to still give his tithe for each week. We ask you to add the Church to your bills if your attendance is not regular. We need every member to be committed to reliable contribution to the Church, and not "just when you come." The electric company still needs paid when you go on vacation for your home light bill. Same with the Church, we have bills to pay whether you are here or not, and it is not fair to put the burdon of the bills on those who attend more often!
However, Biblical giving is not just about stewardship, but about doing the right thing as a child of God and building up His House. Stewardship "pays the bills" here and now, but it does not build God's Kingdom in the Church. Only tithing does that. Holy Protection has a vision where all of its members move toward tithing so that we can build the Church up and its ministry, outreaching to the community, making it possible to actually afford to hire people for other reasons other than just maintenance. We can hire them to do ministry work on behalf of the Church, to organize activities that bring us out into the community, which in turn will bring them back to us. We can feed the physically and spiritually hungry, do better at visiting the sick, etc.
Likewise, part of "consumerism" is seeing the priest as an "employee" or as "the hired help." Some don't think that they hold this but there is a very quick test. Every priest knows who truly respects him as their spiritual father and those who don't by who lets him know when they will not be in church. Likewise, if there is prolonged absence, they contact him and explain. Its what spiritual childen do toward parents. Likewise, if the priest has contacted a person or persons several times, and they have not come to church nor at least initiated a conversation themselves, again to at least explain to the priest, then they clearly don't truly see him as a spiritual father, but as a "hired hand" there to comfort them and "serve" their needs. But the priest was not ordained to serve the people, but rather to lead the people in serving God together as a unified Body of Christ.